Monthly Archives: December 2015

Are you an Asian student/tourist looking for a friendly contact?

Hello and welcome! Looking to meet new people, find out about the best places to visit while in QLD, job advice, and contacts for 2nd year visas? Give me an email and get in touch 🙂 Keep reading for more info. 

Korean
 
안녕하세요,

우리는 호주 에 오신 것을 환영합니다 !

그것은 하드 새로운 나라 에 적응 될 수 있으며, 우리는 당신이 환영 느끼고 싶어요 ! 호주 에있는 동안 당신이 어떤 도움을 필요로하는 경우에, 저희에게 알려주십시오.

이 지역에 도움이 필요 하십니까?

– 파트 타임
– 비자
– 주택
– 호주에 방문 가치가 장소 에 대한 정보 –
– 회의 새로운 사람들

언제든지 이메일을 보내 수 있습니다.
우리는 조언을 드리겠습니다 ! 모든 도움 은 무료입니다.

Sheenah

Vietnamese

Xin chào,

Chúng tôi chào đón bạn đến Úc !

Thật khó có thể điều chỉnh đến một đất nước mới, và chúng tôi muốn bạn cảm thấy hoan nghênh! Nếu bạn cần bất kỳ sự giúp đỡ trong khi ở Úc , xin vui lòng cho chúng tôi biết .

Bạn cần giúp đỡ trong lĩnh vực này?

– Bán thời gian
– Visa
– Nhà ở
– Các thông tin về những nơi đáng tham quan tại Úc –
– Gặp gỡ những người mới

Bạn có thể e -mail bất cứ lúc nào .
Chúng tôi rất vui để đưa ra lời khuyên ! Giúp đỡ Tất cả là miễn phí .

Sheenah

Chinese

您好!
据我们了解,生活在一个新的国家可能让你觉得不舒服,但我们很乐意帮助你在任何形式的生命在澳大利亚。
我们可以提供以下服务:
找工作
安排第二年签证
安排住宿
发挥访问澳大利亚最好的地方
结交新朋友
您可以在任何时间与我联系,请发送电子邮件,我会送你我的电话号码。我很愿意帮助你以任何方式,我可以。这是一项免费服务:)
祝你有美好的一天!
Sheenah
 


Tawainese

Hello!
我們知道你會遇到一些困難在國外生活,如果你需要幫助,我們會很樂意來解釋您的任何問題!
下面的信息是你有興趣嗎?
1.工作
2.簽證(2年)
3.住宿
4.澳洲旅遊景點
5.結交新朋友
如果你有任何問題,歡迎您向我們發送電子郵件!如果你不知道該怎麼做,或者你需要傾訴,你總是歡迎!
Sheenah

Thai

สวัสดี,

เรายินดีต้อนรับคุณ ไปยังประเทศออสเตรเลีย !

มันอาจจะเป็น เรื่องยากที่จะ ปรับให้เข้ากับ ประเทศใหม่ และเรา ต้องการให้คุณรู้สึก ยินดีต้อนรับ! ถ้าคุณต้องการ ความช่วยเหลือ ใด ๆ ในขณะที่ ในออสเตรเลีย โปรดบอกเรา

มองหาคำแนะนำ ?

– ไม่เต็มเวลา
– วีซ่า
– ที่อยู่อาศัย
– ข้อมูลเกี่ยวกับ เว็บไซต์ของมูลค่าการเยี่ยมชม ในออสเตรเลีย –
– การประชุม ผู้คนใหม่ ๆ

คุณสามารถส่งอีเมล ได้ตลอดเวลา
เรายินดีที่จะ ให้คำแนะนำ! ช่วยเหลือ ทั้งหมด เป็นอิสระ
Sheenah

Contact: hello_brisbane@outlook.com 

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Dear John: An open letter to Brisbane Sex ‘Punters’

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It’s been some time since I researched the massage forums. You see, it’s not something I get great pleasure from. Reading your discussions about jizzing on Asian massage workers and your jokes about the next bloke copping a taste, isn’t something I particularly enjoy.

However, a few days ago I decided to have a look through the forum, and was surprised to find, that after 18 months, one of you had finally come across my blog.

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I found your discussion about me and my blog fascinating, to say the least. For a start, you were a lot less aggressive and derogatory than I expected. In fact, some of you even applauded my interests in anti-human trafficking, and concerns about women being forced or coerced against their will.

Of course, there were also the typical misogynist rantings about all feminists being angry and ugly. Because, of course! A woman MUST be ugly if she has something to say about society? Yawn.

“Question: Why is every single angry feminist, ugly? Sexual frustration and jealousy of younger better looking women masked as intellectualism.”

Overall,  many of you appear to be ‘normal’ guys. You find child abuse deplorable. You refer to those who push for extras and then don’t tip as ‘the scum of the earth.’ You criticise and talk about the horrible working conditions for many of these girls, who at times get fined by their mamasans for being late, calling in sick, or trying to leave. When a young massage worker is raped, you express anger.

But the main thing I’ve noticed about many of you, is the overwhelming hypocrisy and entitlement.

Dear Punters, no matter whether you treat these girls with abuse, or what you think is respect, you are being cowards. You are trying to offset your involvement onto others: the mamasans, the ‘dirty’ girls who really like it, the money hungry ‘whores’ who look at you like an ATM.

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Yet by your own admission, many of you are married, in relationships, and with kids. You talk about having a second phone (a ‘boner’ phone), about almost getting caught by your wife, and you gloat with your internet buddies about the random women you’ve punted, storing the names of your sexual conquests away in your mind like collectible cards.

Dear ‘Punters’ / Johns. Here is the reality.

Reality 1: You are lying to yourselves if you think you are innocent in this. You are the key for their supply. These women, and their Mamasans (no matter how cruel) would not be operating these shops if not for you. I’ve met some of the women who own these shops, and yes, I can certainly say they are not innocent. But I can also imagine that after going through this industry themselves, they probably welcome a chance not to have to put out for you men all the time. And if you find them so exploitive, why are you paying THEM money? Everytime you go there, you are putting more money in their pockets. But you don’t really care do you…

Reality 2: You don’t deserve paid sex/blowjobs/sex acts just because your wife ‘isn’t up for it’ as much as you are/you don’t have a connection anymore/blah blah blah. In fact, even if your wife is a total bitch, controlling and abusive, you do not get a free pass to cheat. You do not have a right to purchase someone to make you feel good. Get honest with yourself, stop being a coward, and leave your wife. Don’t want to be married? Then get a divorce. Want to be in an open relationship? Choose someone who is open to that. I would say the same to a woman.

Reality 3: You are not ‘helping’ these girls. You might think that you are a hero and that they are the ones using you (and most certainly, some will, because what other job options are screaming out for their poor English and low skill set?), but as I’ve said in other blogs, if you really cared about those less fortunate you would connect them with networks, people and organisations that could help them get ahead and truly experience Australia for all that it is. You are not helping them, you are helping yourself and using your position in society to justify it.

Imagine yourself living in another country, hardly able to speak the language of those around you, with little money or opportunity…now imagine that someone tells you about a way you can make money, with no experience necessary. You might have to masturbate some men or do other things, but hey, it’s better than having to have sex with them right? You’d probably be repulsed. But if that’s your only option, then you make the most of it.

Although, I’d hardly call that ‘choice’. 

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At the end of the day, whether a girl truly enjoys what she is doing to you or not, you have noone to blame for you being there other than you. You don’t really care about the wellbeing of these women, just as you don’t care about your partners, wives or children.

We all have our flaws, our addictions, our temptations. But we all have the power to overcome them. Until you/we stop shifting the blame and take responsibility you will never be free of addiction. You don’t have to keep living this way, wasting money and cheating yourself of true intimacy and financial security  because of an addiction.

If you want to get help, the first step is to tell someone you can trust and find an accountability partner. The next step is to seek treatment and get rid of the things that exacerbate your temptation – that means getting rid of your second phone, installing anti porn blockers on your phone and computer, and deleting your forum accounts.

Yes, it will be hard. But it’s not impossible. Many men have done it before you, and many more will. And I say this wholeheartedly: Please get yourself help.

Need help with your relationship or addictions?

Mensline – 1300 78 99 78   http://www.mensline.org.au/

Feed The Right Wolf A site with lots of resources for those suffering sex addiction; including recovery coaching, a free 30 day trial of ”Covenant Eyes” (filtering software), and allows you to take sex addiction self-analysis tests. It also includes a forum where you can discuss your struggles or victories. There’s some really encouraging stories on there from men who have recovered (and young teenagers).

Sex Addiction Australia “A Sydney and Internet based national service and a professional sex therapist and specialist sex addiction therapy private practise. We provide confidential clinical sex addiction counselling and sex therapy for sexual addictions and sexual compulsive behaviours, for sexual dysfunctions, sexual health and safer sex, and we update you with sex addiction research & information.”

SA Aus also provides support to partners of men/women suffering from sex addiction. E: info@sexaddictionaustralia.com.au or call 02 9380 4486

Sex Addicts Anonymous includes information on meetings you can attend in various countries – including Australia (VIC/NSW/QLD)

Sexual Control Helping individuals with sex addictions since 1983, this site also allows you to download the book ”The most personal addiction” for free.

Fight The New Drug – Simple & clear information on how porn affects the brain, damages relationships, and how you can break free of addiction.

For interesting reading about the effects of Porn on your brain and whether it’s having a negative impact on your life/relationship, see this recent post from Triple J Hack.